will I ever find love?

Dear Alex,

I dreamt that there was a man on my bed. I threw water at him and he got mad. He said my uncle would die, and he did. I have seen him a few times since then and he has made all the boyfriends I have had dump me! I am afraid. Am i psychic, or did I kill my uncle? will I ever find love?

Does Nathan my ex-boyfriend (i dumped him coz i was scared he would be made to dump me) sill love me as much as I love him?


Dear Confused,

I’m very sorry to read of your Uncle’s passing.  I can tell be the poor quality of your typing, spelling and grammar that you have been greatly effected by this dream.   However, have you ever heard the expression “it is better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all”?  I think you should apologise to Nathan for dumping him but I would be surprised if he will accept your apology, it was a pretty silly thing to do!

The man on your bed represents all men and you throwing water at him represents you driving them away.  From the dream you have described, it seems you are the type of person who does not want to take responsibility for your actions, then feels guilty, therefore you dream the man is making your boyfriends dump you instead of seeing that only you have the power to do this, don’t be so hard on yourself.  You did not kill your Uncle and you have no reason to be afraid.  I doubt that you have the psychic ability necessary to wilt a flower, let alone kill someone.
You will find love although in what form I am uncertain, but driving away the ones you love by dumping them will not help.  I suppose you would like more reassurance than this but I think this is maybe a case where a close examination of how you REALLY feel about your boyfriends would be more appropriate than worrying about the conflicting emotions of your seemingly adolescent sub-conscious.  Don’t be afraid of love and don’t blame yourself if relationships don’t work, falling in and out of love is one of the most wonderous cycles we ever get to experience, it is both good and bad, easy and hard, but the joy true love brings is worth every moment of the bad and hard times.  I am sorry I cannot be of more help.